The other day I walked to work with a dear friend of mine. She’s someone I used to work with and used to see nearly every day. We decided in a relatively unspoken way that we liked each other too much to let our friendship end just because we’ve stopped working together.
Too many friendships end
that way. And take it from me, someone who’s seen a lot of friendships end,
friendships are too important to let die like weeds in an abandoned lot.
But we let them die. I’ve
gotten too busy for some or someone’s moved away or it’s just not convenient. When
you advance in years and look back at the people you’ve let fall by the wayside,
well, it’s just a little sad. Of course, it’s somewhat inevitable, but my two
cents say, to paraphrase a bit of Dylan Thomas, you should rage, rage against
the dying of the smile.
I pick my friend up
outside of her apartment. Depending on the crush of the day’s demands, we walk
either for 20 minutes (which is too short) or an hour (which is also too short.)
About a week ago as we
set out on our route I spotted a dime on the sidewalk and stopped to pick it
up.
My friend said, “You see
everything.”
On Tuesday, it happened
again. This time I stopped and picked up a penny.
We smiled at each other.
But I couldn’t stop
thinking about it.
Not the 11-cents I found.
But about something else.
About making yourself
aware of the bright, shiny things around you. Even if they’re small and seemingly
inconsequential.
We should be looking for
smiles, looking for wisdom, laughter, or even, the slimmest glimmer of love.
Too often, in life, in
work, with our families, we shut ourselves off from beauty. We shut ourselves off
from the bright and shiny.
Because we all get lost
and distracted and denuded and, maybe, deranged by the over-bearing crush of
the every day. Everyday.
We worry about our next
deliverable, our next meeting, our next task. The next thing that absolutely,
positively cannot be ignored, or denied or not put front and center. As an
ex-client once answered when I asked her which “to-do” was top-priority, ‘everything
is top priority.’
Except it’s not.
Work undoubtedly is
important. Coming through professionally for yourself, your agency, your
clients, is important. Building, fighting for and protecting your career. They’re
all important.
But making sure you’re keen
is just as important. That you’re not so snowed-under that you lose sight of
life around you.
Because if you do stop
seeing, as so many of us have seemed to, you’ll miss the glint of a penny on
the street. You’ll miss the spark in a piece of creative work. You’ll miss the
opportunities in work and life that you’ve been too busy to notice. You’ll miss
friendship, and learning, and laughter.
And you'll probably miss the chance to do your best work. Because you'll be too miserable to smile.
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